"Where are they?" My voice sounded edgy. "I thought Brad told us he would be right under that Celular sign."
We scanned the room. In the far corner, a group of young men, all wearing identical yellow and black T-shirts displaying an image of a large soccer ball, slapped each other on the back and exchanged high and low fives, as though celebrating an important victory. In the center of the room, people chatted with one another as they stood in line in front of the omelet counter.
"I see his sign. There they are," my husband said, pulling me behind a pillar. He pointed to a group huddled around a man holding up a sheet of paper with the words Illuminated Journeys scrawled across it.
Staying mostly out of sight behind our pillar, we examined the group Brad had referred to in his correspondence as his "pilgrims." I counted fifteen of them.
Ten months earlier, Ed and I had stumbled across Brad's Illuminated Journeys website. Captured by the photographs, we scanned the details about the upcoming pilgrimage he was leading on El Camino de Santiago, also referred to as The Way. We knew very little about the Camino, other than what we'd seen in Martin Sheen's 2010 movie. And we knew nothing about Brad. But something compelled us to sign up.
Now, hiding behind our pillar and inspecting the man surrounded by his pilgrims, I began to think that maybe we'd made a big mistake.
"Look at them, Ed. I don't think this is going to work out at all," I whispered. "They look like they might be super religious. Do you think we'll even be allowed to drink wine on this trip?"
"Now, now," Ed interrupted me. "Maybe you're just making up assumptions that won't turn out to be so."
"I don't think we should've come," I said, eyeing two elderly women in particular who looked like they could be sisters. They both had short white hair in tight little curls. Even from where we stood, I could see that their faces were lined with wrinkles and their shoulders were stooped. "Some of them look way older than us. They're probably not even up to walking the distances we're supposed to cross. This doesn't seem like a group of people I want to travel with."
"Come on," Ed said, grabbing his roller bag. "I think we'd better get over there before they leave without us."
Reluctantly, I followed him as he made his way across the waiting room.
"Hi, I'm Ed," my husband said, reaching to shake Brad's hand. "And this is Marlena."
"Welcome to Spain," Brad said, squeezing my hand. "Here, let me introduce you to the rest of the pilgrims."
I swallowed hard, trying to suppress the urge to flee.
Pilgrims from around the world walk the Camino from points throughout Europe to reach the tomb of Saint James in a town in northern Spain called Santiago de Compostela. There are many reasons people take the journey. Simply to walk. To search for meaning in their lives. To find silence. To do penance. To give thanks. Or to let go of a burden the pilgrim is willing to leave behind at the Cruz de Ferro, a simple iron cross atop a thirty-foot, weathered, wooden mast that marks the highest point of the Camino. It's surrounded by a hill of stones amassed through the centuries by pilgrims performing spiritual "letting-go" rituals there. They bring a stone from their homeland that symbolizes a burden they wish to release, and add it to the mound.
I wasn't at all sure why we were there. It seemed like a fun idea when we signed up. Surely it was a good way for us to experience the Camino, traversing only those portions of it that an expert had identified for us in advance. The entire Camino begins at Saint Jean Pied de Port, France, and continues for over 500 miles through four of Spain's fifteen regions, ending at the Catedral de Santiago de Compostela in Galicia. We walked only the parts that Brad felt were the most interesting or important. And at the end of each day, a luxurious coach waited to take us to comfortable lodging and food for the night. We knew walking even just these portions of the Camino would take some stamina, but figured it would be a relatively easy way to experience it.
Two months ago, however, Brad had sent us a question that suggested we were in for something more than a mere walk through the Spanish countryside.
When we get to the Cruz de Ferro, what will you let go of?
For many weeks, I had pondered the question. I'd tried out many answers. I could let go of sugar for an entire year, I thought. Or red meat. Or wine. Or I could empty out half of my clothes closet, give the stuff away.
Each time I came up with another thing I could let go, I heard Brad's words, willing me not to trivialize this. Prodding me to make this count. Why do I even care what this Brad guy wants me to let go of, I thought. I don't even know him, and he certainly doesn't know me.
On our flight to Spain, I still had not found an answer to Brad's question. I picked up a stone from the white-water river that flowed in front of our home in Oregon, and tucked it into my suitcase, just in case. But I had no idea what burden it should symbolize. I frowned at the insistent voice in my head. What part of your life are you willing to let go of?
I turned to my husband in the seat beside me. "How'd you get yours so fast, Ed?" "I mean, I get the feeling Brad wants us to do something life-changing by that cross. How did you know what to choose?"
Ed was silent for a moment. "Have you thought about it like this?" he finally said. "Have you thought about the thing you like least about yourself? You could start there and work on letting that go?"
As our plane flew across the Atlantic, I made a long list of things I disliked about myself.
I am often judgmental.
I am sometimes harsh.
I can be impatient.
I am often judgmental.
I am a perfectionist.
I am often judgmental.
I am often judgmental.
And so I identified it. And the jagged stone from the wild and untamed McKenzie River was a perfect symbol of my harsh judgments. I even found and memorized a short list of meditations that I hoped would help me on my journey.
I consciously give meaning to and bless whatever happens to me.
I know that there are no negative or positive events, people or situations in life. They're all my teachers.
I welcome, accept, celebrate and express gratitude for everything that occurs in my life.
I give up the idea that I need to struggle against the odds of life. Instead, I give in to everything I resist and the need for judgment will leave me in the same way a feather is carried away by the wind.
I breathed in a prayer of surrender as I introduced myself to Brad's pilgrims. They're all my teachers.
I listened to their introductions. There were quite a few Baptists, some of them ministers, two Mennonites, a Catholic priest, and to my surprise, a lesbian. It turned out that the two elderly women actually were sisters. It seemed to me that our reasons for being there covered pretty much the full spectrum. I wonder what they're letting go of, I thought, eyeing the Mennonites suspiciously.
We began our walk on the Camino by climbing the Alto de Perdón, the Mount of Forgiveness. It was a winding trek up the hill against a stiff wind. The path was not all that steep, but the two sisters lagged far behind. I shook my head. I knew they wouldn't be able to handle it.
At the top of the hill, a long row of metal statues stood tall against the deep blue sky. They represented pilgrims who had braved the wind to continue on the path. Many had passed here before and many would pass here in the future. I pulled my cap down low to protect my ears against the stiff wind and looked toward the west where the Camino wound its way toward the goal. The need for judgment will leave me in the same way a feather is carried away by the wind, I murmured to myself, wrapping my fingers around my rock.
That evening at dinner, I overheard one of the sisters say to the other, "We both managed to get up that hill today, and I'm so grateful. I know you've been saving up for this trip for years. And I've dreamed of doing this pilgrimage with you for a long, long time..."
Their conversation continued, but I heard nothing further. Blood rushed up into my head. My face turned a deep shade of red.
During the next few days, I continued to watch the elderly sisters struggling on the uneven terrain. Of course you didn't think to bring walking poles, my monkey mind began, but then stopped short as I fingered the jagged rock in my left pocket. Slowly I walked back down the path toward the two of them. "Here, take my hiking poles," I said, handing one to each of them. "I think they help a lot on these loose stones."
"Thank you. That's very thoughtful of you." For the first time, I noticed their bright eyes and cheerful smiles in the midst of the loops of wrinkles.
I breathed in a prayer of gratitude.
For a number of days, we walked through the beautiful regions of Navarra, Rioja, and León, meeting pilgrims of all ages and nationalities along the way. We trudged along paved highways full of deep potholes, which abruptly turned into narrow trails. Steep mountain trails became flat stone-strewn roads with sloping meadows. We made our way through open fields and then moved into thick groves of oak trees hugging the trail, their branches hanging close to the ground. We passed through small villages with ancient stone buildings disintegrating in the wind.
"Buen camino," we pilgrims said to one another as we passed, which literally means "good road." We learned that it also has a deeper meaning, an acknowledgment that you wish people well in pursuing their pilgrimage intent. With nearly every "buen camino," I touched the rock in my left pocket and breathed in one of my meditations, welcome, accept, celebrate and express gratitude...
A deep fog enveloped the path on the fifth day of our pilgrimage. This was the day I'd been waiting for. My rock, which I'd now removed from my pocket and held in my hand, seemed to get heavier with every step. Slowly and quietly we walked the country road in the mist, passing groups of cows and patches of heather. I could feel the grade increasing, straining the backs of my legs as we ascended the pass of Irago. When we reached the crest of the pass, the mountains to the south appeared in heavy bulges and huge white wind turbines peaked through the dense fog.
There it stood. I'm not a religious person, but the gaunt wood pole with the iron cross on the hillside in the low-hanging clouds reminded me of the Bible story about Golgotha. Tears began to sting my eyes as I stood still and gazed up at the cross.
I was prepared for this moment. When it was my turn to climb the hill of stones, I held my rock gently against my heart. The stones shifted and clinked under my feet. With something close to reverence, I blessed this mountain of stones, each one a symbol of a burden a pilgrim wanted to leave behind before leaving the Cruz de Ferro and beginning life anew. Some stones had messages written on them, others the names of towns or people. Some had paper notes or photos tied to them, others stuffed bunnies or bears.
When I reached the base of the mast, I looked up along its length through the heavy fog. There, high above my head, a tiny ray of sun found a crack and touched the iron cross. I knelt at the base and pressed my forehead against the wood, tears streaming down my face. Ever so gently, I placed my rock, the weight of a lifetime of judgments, on the pile between a stone with a heart painted on the face of it and another stone with Elena printed on it in long, slanted letters.
As I stood up and turned, I caught sight of a small crowd of bicyclists at the foot of the hill, taking pictures of one another with the cross as a backdrop. They raised cans of beer high in the air and with loud cheers they toasted their arrival at the Cruz.
I felt my chest constrict as rage began to flare. Couldn't they see that they were rudely disturbing a sacred spot?
I turned toward the cross, towering behind me against the gray sky, and then back to the cheering bicyclists. My chest expanded as I let go of my anger and inhaled a deep sense of oneness. In that moment, I understood that this was not the culmination, but rather the beginning of my journey toward greater peace in my life.
"Buen camino." A pilgrim, eyes shimmering with tears, smiled brightly at me as he passed me on his way up to the cross.
Images provided courtesy of Marlena Fiol.